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What does it mean to slow down?

By Sara J. Sanderson

The majority of us in this crazy modern world are living as fragments of ourselves. Slaves to constant doing and busyness in the name of progress, productivity, and ideas of success.

What if the fast paced modern world is a collective shadow of hiding our power and full expression?

Are we scared to see who we truly are?

Have you noticed how we even mock our innate ability of insight and the knowing beyond intellect, with terms like woo woo or making apologies for sounding weird (or maybe that’s just me?)

There can be a visceral pain in slowing down and facing our wounds. Stories of “I don’t have time”, “I must do more now” can easily mask the avoidance to feeling all that’s in shadow.

However noisy it gets and however caught up in the conditioned demands of the world you get. Your reflection is always here waiting to be seen and expressed.

The invitation is to slow down and face all of who you are. To reclaim your primal power and actualise your deepest gifts.

All of you is welcome here!

To the holders…

By Lian Brook-Tyler

Holders need holding too…

At the end of the session with my coach today I said…

“We could have just spoken about custard for an hour and it would have been exactly what I needed.”

After a particularly intense day of holding others, I felt an unusually strong need to be held too.

“Unusually” in that I’m a born holder. It’s natural for me to be the leader, coach, teacher, parent, guide, and friend who offers the shoulder to cry on. I can hold a *lot* and I willingly do so.

And sometimes, after a day (week, month, year) of holding people’s anger, sadness, fear and hopelessness, I need holding too.

Many of the people I hold are holders too, they’re often life’s “designated responsible one”, there’s no-one in their life who can hold them so they come to me to be held.

I celebrate them in knowing what they need and allowing themselves to receive that.

And I celebrate myself in knowing when it’s time to take my own medicine… allowing myself to be held too.

(It wasn’t just about custard ).

Are you a holder? Who holds you?

Art: Taryn Knight

#sovereignty #alliswelcome #love #beingheld #holder #leader

On being provocative…

By Lian Brook-Tyler

I’m often told that I provoke people… to think; to feel; to open; to close; to Fear; to Love.

It’s not exactly been an easy path but it’s one I’m growing to love as I see its gifts – the material for liberation it provides for me and others.

I’ve been diving back into my Human Design again recently and saw how this is reflected in my Incarnation Cross (which can be seen as our purpose or role in life)…

The Right Angle Cross of Tension

“39 (The Provocateur) 38 (The Fighter) 21 (The Hunter/Huntress) 48 (Depth)

“You were born with the gift to push people’s buttons. While this can create some negative reactions, the goal of the provocation is to find the right spirit in the reaction. Those who you provoke are given a ”gift,” as they have an opportunity to work on whatever you have provoked within them. They may not always see it that way though, so be forewarned. Your purpose is to create tension which causes a reaction typically in the form of a tirade or emotional expression. From that reaction come the seeds of information that through analysis can lead to the other finding an emotional path to spirit.”

So this is my mission and I choose to accept it.

Have you seen your path reflected in your Human Design?

#humandesign #manifestinggenerator #provocative #soulpath #purpose

How to know you’re ready for the Descent

By Lian Brook-Tyler

Most of our clients come from a background of various forms of spirituality, particularly non-dual and 3P. They’re drawn to us because they feel we are offering something that feels strangely “right” to them at that point in their lives.

Often there’s been a sequence of seemingly magical synchronicities and signs that’s led them to the point of knowing they’re called to walk the path of Waking The Wild.

But they’re worried it’ll mean disavowing or dismissing the years they spent in and the benefits they got from whichever spiritual path they’ve walked before.

When actually, the opposite is the case… these forms of spirituality are what we call Ascension. Simply put, it’s understanding and experiencing our non-separation… this is precious, beautiful and if we lived in a more indigenous life-way: our birthright.

So they get to keep all of that.

The reason they’re drawn to work with us is because they know deep down that they’re ready for the journey of Descension… into the wildness of the body, earth and soul.

They’ve seen their sameness to everything and everyone, and now’s the time to taste their uniqueness… the gift they came here to be.

It’s a very different journey to Ascension… it’s not all Love & Light, in fact, it’s more like Love & Dark.

Monroe once said “…if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”

Side-note: if you want to dismiss this because it’s from someone known for her looks rather than her mind, may I offer an alternative view? Having studied La Monroe for years, I see her as being waaaay smarter and deeper than she’s given credit for. I’ll also be forever grateful to her because in lieu of YouTube or a mother around to teach me how to apply make-up, I taught myself by poring over her stills. But I digress.

Her words can be applied to how others relate to us, how we relate to others but, most of all: how we relate to ourselves.

When we can welcome, see and love our “worst”, our darkness, our wounds, and our shadows, we can love ourselves wholly – we can love ourselves whole.

This wholeness brings with it all kinds of gifts… from finally being able to make a living doing what we love, addressing “mystery” illnesses that have plagued us for years, to creating real intimacy in our relationships… that I’ve seen only come from the Descent.

You’ll know when you’re ready… you can look out for those synchronicities and signs. But most of all, know that you’ll know.

Art: still from The Misfits, 1961. It’s one of my favourite photos of her. And yes, probably because she’s hugging a tree so I get two of my great loves in one photo.

#thedescent #wakingthewild #ascension #3p #nonduality #shadow #rewilding #soulpath #marilynmonroe

Why all of you is welcome ♥️

Why all of you is welcome ♥️

By Lian Brook-Tyler

I work with a lot of empaths… people with a gift that for most of their life has felt anything but.

First of all their gift needs acknowledgement and then the work really begins… loving and cultivating themselves to become who they came here to be.

Despite understanding and helping empaths, I’m not one. In fact, I’m almost the opposite… I don’t experience other people’s feelings, in fact mostly, I have no clue how others are feeling.

For most of my life I felt like there was something wrong with me. I was so bad at reading a room, feeling the energy, and knowing how to show up “right”.

Slowly, painfully, and often embarrassingly, I learned enough to get by, to the point now that most people would call me empathic.

In actual fact, part of my gift is how I make others feel.

I’m often told that I bring a lot of energy into a room. I can turn the temperature sub-zero with a look (which has been described as Game of Thrones White Walkeresque), make someone feel they’re at risk of being incinerated (that’s the Dragon part of me) or I can light up a room and everyone in it, like the sun.

The more work I’ve done to integrate my shadow the more the impact I have is positive one: people feel seen, loved, welcome, liberated and most of all: a gift.

But I don’t deny that the capacity for the White Walker and the Dragon is still there, I honour and welcome those parts of me too.

We only get to be a gift and welcome others to be theirs when we stop shaming ourselves for everything we’re not, and instead start loving ourselves, radically, completely, for everything that we are, dark, light, blooms, thorns and all.

Art: Edward Howell, Unsplash

#empath #energy #soulpath #radicalselflove