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Why I’m devoted to living with an open heart

Written by Lian Brook-Tyler

‘Living with an open heart’ sounds like a flowery metaphor or a nice idea for when life lines up sweetly enough to make it possible. It’s neither of those things.

My devotion to opening my heart (and to keep opening it… it closes on the regular), no matter what, is probably the single most challenging thing I do.

And… it’s one of the most rewarding and impactful things too.

It’s what has me choose into conversations, experiences and relationships that are awkward, frightening and painful – even though I’m the Queen of Disassociating and I could very easily do that with all my triggers and desires, be as Zen af, and everything would stay nice and beige.

It’s what has me create the ridiculously deep offerings that my soul calls me to – even when I think “…but why me? I’m not ready/deep enough in my work/masterful enough/well known enough for this yet.”

It’s what has me write about stuff that’s at my edge, makes me look uncertain, whimsical and like someone who has no business coaching others – and then press ‘Post’ even when I know I’ll want to hide under the duvet afterwards.

(You’re getting the metaness of that one? )

It’s pretty clear to me by now that the life I’d be living from a closed heart bears no resemblance to the glorious, white knuckle wild ride that living from an open heart brings.

Living as Love is messier and more delicious than the ripest, juiciest peach.

Which reminds me of Dita Von Teese quoting someone’s Grandma “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”

Which of course, is what makes it so scary.

But then all that juice makes it so worthwhile.

P.S. If you’re feeling the call to see how I can help you become your magic, follow your next breadcrumb to Waking The Wild Medicine

Time to reclaim your magic from the witch wound?

Written by Lian Brook-Tyler

Time to reclaim your magic from the witch wound?

My work with clients entails helping them to reclaim their gold from shadow, and specifically with my ‘Medicine Women’ (one of the most required and most forgotten Feminine archetypes) it’ll entail them expanding beyond the Witch Wound, whose claws have been gripped around their mouths, keeping them nice, quiet, normal and distinctly unmagical, and therefore safely hidden.

Note: you don’t need to identify as a witch (I don’t) for this wound’s shadow to loom large, especially when it comes to you stepping into your Soul Work and being your Medicine.

If, when you speak of allowing yourself to be seen in all your unique magic, you find yourself laughingly using phrases like:

“Eek! I might get burned at the stake!”

“I can imagine being chased out of the village!”

“I feel I could get drowned for saying that!”

That’s our ancient friend the Witch Wound speaking. And those things you’re laughing about are really no joke. You know that fear in your bones, don’t you?

You can thank her, she’s doing her best to remind you of the very real dangers of being seen in all your full glory.

And… the 16th century wants her back.

She’s well intentioned but out of date… what would have once got you into all kinds of hot water, now almost certainly won’t.

You’re :: safe :: here :: now.

…BREATHE, sweet one…

Now try this millennium on for size.

I often talk about looking for just the next breadcrumb on your path. *This* breadcrumb is an invitation to…

Show yourself a little

Speak your truth a little

Let your magic shine a little

And then look out for your next breadcrumb of the guides, helpers and all manner of synchronistic signs that will let you know it’s your time to be your Medicine.

“It may be the first day of your life, the prime of youth or several decades in, when Medicine Woman calls you. Your name on her list. Her new initiate. She crept in whilst you were sleeping, when you over-exerted, when you kissed him, or ate that, or lived there or pushed too hard just one time too many. She crept in and curled up in your cells, your heart, waiting to meet you. Longing to know you. Longing for you to know her, at last.” Lucy H. Pearce.

P.S. If you’re feeling the call to see how I can help you become your magic, follow your next breadcrumb to Waking The Wild Medicine

My journey to having a point of view

Written by Lian Brook-Tyler

“When I say “point of view,” I mean: your perspective, philosophy, take on things, approach, cosmology, system, world-view, core principles, voice, values, map, compass, and route.

“Your niche is central to relevance, whereas your point of view is absolutely central to trust and credibility.” Tad Hargrave

I adore Tad’s work and his whole thing about ‘Point of View Marketing’ (follow the link in the comments. His ebook is epic and highly recommended).

And I’ve found it SO challenging to embody and express my point of view for a number of reasons…

My passions and therefore my philosophy (and therefore my work) have changed radically over the years. It’s SO inconvenient (hello yet another rebrand, hello upsetting people who loved what we used to be about) and yet feels so enlivening and right for me.

After a childhood of being trained to look at all sides of *everything* and to play Devil’s advocate (when we weren’t playing Dungeons & Dragons), I struggle to stand strong in one perspective of The Truth or opinion of The Best Way. I can find a way to understand and respect almost anyone else’s position and I’ll be thinking of everything questionable or weak about my own philosophy with more incision than any ‘hater’ (aren’t we all lovers really?) ever could. From there, it’s been a challenge to truly empower my perspective over all the other perspectives.

Until very recently my fear of being seen as weird held me back from sharing much of who I was or any philosophy I was exploring at the time. Most of what I dig is waaaay out there (if you think the things I share here are weird, you should see the rest of what occupies my mind). I chug down books like most people eat breakfast (actually, I usually fast from food in the a.m. so books *are* my breakfast). I create notes, poems, essays, prayers, songs, squiggles, compositions and ideas and I share about a fifth of it because the rest would only make sense on some other planet in some other galaxy. I obsess about specific phrases, dreams, myths or paintings for weeks (sometimes decades). I see visions, hear voices and know things I have no earthly reason to know.

And finally I’ve realised I’ve arrived at a place where I have a point of view that allows for all of this and more. It’s really how I’ve gone from being ‘weird’ to being wild, it is the path I was fortunate enough to walk and now share with others.

The weird ones… those of us who live for depth and meaning, who are magical, idealistic and dreamy and for whom music or the forest or the vision we have for the world or poetry or painting or dancing are woven into the fabric of us so deeply it’s how life unfolds *as* us.

We are the ones who have been called old souls, accused of thinking too much or too deeply about EVERYTHING (it’s no accident that my monthly show is called ‘All The Everything’), and for whom our worlds of big dreams and rich fantasies are at least as real as the world inhabited by everyone else.

The struggle for us to fit into this material world is real. I’ve found it can be done and not by packing away our hearts and souls into a box in the darkest, dustiest corner of the attic (that strategy has a shelf life). But by becoming wild.

Being Wild… No longer listening to our culture’s shoulds but by committing to living a wild life, which can also be described as soul-led Sovereignty.

That was one of the most powerful commitments of my life, not least because it’s meant I *have* to be weirdly, uniquely me (allowing myself to be seen in doing so has come only recently and there’s still room for more).

It’s meant reconnecting to ancient, primal elements that have served our species for millennia… These include brotherhood and sisterhood, embodiment, intimacy, the magic of creation, the wild world and retrieving gold from shadow.

And most of all it means being guided by my wild heart… what I love, what I value, what I desire and what calls me, which is how I know what’s for me (that changes and that’s OK, that’s wild hearts for you).

The path… I followed the breadcrumbs into my body, the earth and my soul. It worked. It’s the path of Waking The Wild we now offer to others to allow them to live from wild hearts and soulful sovereignty too.

Ah, finally… I not only have a point of view but have shared it.

How about you? What’s your point of view?

P.S. I’m sure my point of view could be better articulated with more depth of understanding of Tad’s work.

P.P.S. If you’re feeling the call to see how I can help you become your magic, follow your next breadcrumb to Waking The Wild Medicine

How to stop being afraid of your experience…

Written by Lian Brook-Tyler

“If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their own experience, that alone would change the world.” -Syd Banks

Ironically, I notice that the majority of the people who come to work with me after they’ve been travelling that path for many years are still stuck in the search to more effectively escape their feelings (i.e. their experience).

And that makes *complete* sense when they’ve been taught the solution is stop identifying with their thoughts and feelings.

That sets up difficult thoughts and unsettling feelings as the enemy, something to turn away from, to diminish, to ignore, to place no importance on… but ultimately in many cases… to be afraid of.

I’ve been there and worn the T-shirt (made of 100% organic Thought) until I saw it for the emperor’s new clothes it was.

*And* I’m still SO appreciative of the deep connection with the Divine that this path gave me, I wish that gift for everyone. It was everything, until it wasn’t. It’s annoyingly paradoxical, I know.

But oh my goodness! To have discovered another path… to have the freedom to be in my body, to really feel everything, to place importance on what I’m feeling and why (i.e. to reveal the sacred wounds that no amount of ascension touched) and to create real depth and expansion into being the unique soul expression that I came here to be.

So YES, my people learn how to stop being afraid of their experience… and instead fall totally and utterly in love with it as the invitation into a luscious, golden adventure it really can be.

Why I help magical women to make more money

Written by Lian Brook-Tyler

Why I help magical women to make more money…

(even though I’m neither a money or business coach and have no desire to be one)…

My women would have been the shamans, the doulas, the priestesses, the spiritual teachers, the witches and the healers… in other lives or in this life, if they’d been raised in the kinds of communities we evolved in.

As you shared your gift with your community, you would have been resourced and provided for.

Your people would have queued for your words or your touch *and* would have brought the food, water and wood that meant that your needs were met.

In this culture, bereft of true community and the necessary initiation and guidance onto your path, you’re left floundering in uncertainty about your magic *and* you’re constantly distracted by money (or the lack of it).

This is made even harder because most of us don’t seem to be able to create a clear relationship with money.

For example, I recently discovered that in numerology terms I have a missing number 8, which represents Power (often symbolised by Money).

My numerologist explained that it’s not that I don’t or can’t have money, it’s that I struggle to see it clearly or create a conscious relationship with it. Yesssss! That’s exactly how it feels… kind of vague, unclear, misty, unreal.

Whether you give credence to numerology or not, it seems to me that most of my women share this lack of money consciousness. And I believe that’s no accident, it’s because money (or what it can be exchanged for in the material world) wasn’t meant to be something they needed to be aware of in the same way as people who are walking different soul paths.

This is made more confusing still by all the marketing and sales noise about how to make money, it’s not that those strategies are wrong, in fact, some can work very well for some people… but rarely us.

So those of you who suspect that you are different (if you’re anything like me, you’ll have been told this over and over most of your life tho you’re the last person to want to admit it)… what can you do?

Firstly, finally recognise and own the fact that you *are* different. No more being a raven busy pretending you’re a pigeon.

Secondly, walk the initiatory path to develop your unique blend of magic.

Thirdly, work *as* divine love and receive the ways that people want to love you back (bringing you food, water and wood or the money to buy it, and spreading the word to others about your magic).

So in answer to my opening line ‘Why I help magical women to make more money’… It’s quite simply because I’ve realised that part of my medicine is helping other women to be their magic. Ultimately, to find their way back to working as divine love… which is exactly why they’re here and what the world longs for.

If you (secretly 🤫) know that I’m talking about you in this post then the first thing to do is this… see yourself for the raven you truly are.

From there, the next breadcrumb on your path will be revealed.

All my love,

Lian

P.S. If you’re feeling the call to see how I can help you become your magic, follow your next breadcrumb to Waking The Wild Medicine

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