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What gold is buried deep in your shadow

By Lian Brook-Tyler

I’m back to Kung Fu for the first time in over 6 months… ✨

My children were just asking me why despite my many years of obsessive training in martial arts, I never formally competed.

The truth is I was terrified of being SEEN.

The thought of being in a ring surrounded by a crowd of onlookers scared me so much (waaay more than the thought of a kick to my face, which was fairly commonplace).

It’s hard for my children to relate to that old version of me… given they know me doing the work I do now, which requires me being seen constantly.

It’s taken a lot of years to fall in love with being seen but it took far more years first to understand that it’s what I was born to do (it’s often the case that we’ll have most shadow around our gifts).

Little by little, as I’ve integrated the shadow created by very real trauma that came from being seen, my mic and webcam have gone from enemies to allies to lovers.

Last year I began the work of taking to the stage (metaphorically and literally) in person too and I will continue to do so as the world opens up.

It’s probably come too late for me to star in the remake of Kickboxer but hey, I look much better without a gum shield anyway. 😘

Which of your greatest fears might be covering one of your deepest gifts?
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Your Medicinal Chocolates : The key to a sweeter life

By Lian Brook-Tyler

MAKING IT LOOK EASY ✨

There was a point a few years ago when finally… everything began to work.

Every group program we offer fills quickly and our 1: 1 programs are full until next year, they’re a dream for us to create and they deliver all the transformation intended, seeming miracles, in some cases.

I’m frequently told we make things look easy.

So what created this Holy Grail of joy, ease and magic?

Letting go of everything that wasn’t aligned to us (no matter how comfortable, approval-giving, admiration-garnering, effective or lucrative it was) … and doing so over and over again until we were bared right down to our souls.

And simultaneously saying YES to all of the Material for Liberation that came our way … submitting to choices, teachings and practices that honed our natural gifts (no matter how painful, ego-smushing, costly, unchartered or culturally frowned upon they were) .

So, let me tell you… doing what was needed to be available to become the Medicine we came here to be did * not * come easily.

But now, being that Medicine? That flows like melted chocolate.

(No wonder it looks easy. 😉)

If you’re ready to walk this path too, we can guide the way, which means it doesn’t need to take as long or be quite so torturous as it was for us.

We’re beginning to explore who will be joining us for the next Waking The Wild Medicine in Jan ’22.

The current one is exceeding all of our dreams for it… any adjectives I use will sound like hyperbole, whilst not coming close to the truth of the depth of transformation that is occurring.

It’s hard to believe the next one will be even more powerful but that’s how these things go, so it will be.

Your unique medicinal chocolate awaits. ☺️✨♥ ️

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Want to be stuck in the middle with me..?

By Lian Brook-Tyler

“Clowns to the left of me!

Jokers to the right!

Here I am stuck in the middle with you.”

I woke up one morning realising I’m dancing right in the middle of that Ikigai sweet spot… something that felt like an elusive, inconvenient dream for most of my life and annoyingly, not one I could ignore.

Ikigai is a Japanese concept meaning “a reason for being”. Have a look at the diagram above and see where you are currently.

It turns out that my Ikigai is guiding others – especially the world-changers, misfits and magical ones – into theirs. No wonder my sweet spot was elusive until I finally began focusing on others’.

Well played, universe!

Co-leading Waking The Wild Medicine has brought a deeper understanding and experience of this truth… witnessing the circle bring their unique Medicine out of shadow is making my heart sing on the regular.

I suspect that I, even with the boredom threshold of a border collie and the attraction to shiny new things of a magpie, will be doing this work for a very long time to come… a lifetime even.

If your Ikigai is calling you, the next Waking the Wild Medicine is coming in January ‘22, and you can register your interest HERE now.

I can promise you there will be jokers… and kings, queens, elves and priestesses.

Really.

Lyrics: Stuck in the Middle with You by Stealers Wheel

The calm after the storm

By Lian Brook-Tyler

A sneak peek into what’s going down in Waking The Wild Medicine…

“The most intense conflicts, if overcome, leave behind a sense of security and calm that is not easily disturbed”

~ Carl Jung

It has been an INTENSE few days in our 6-month soul work crucible Waking The Wild Medicine…

Shadow has loomed large.

The triggers have been off the charts.

Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer have all showed up to the party.

As much as I expected there to be some BIG feelings in Wild Medicine – after all, this is deep, deep work – at times over the past few days, I wondered if I could hold it all. Which is rare for me (I can hold a LOT)… especially given I’m on the other side of a screen equipped only with my trusty mic.

I can’t hug those who are hurting, I can’t make them a cup of tea, I can’t bring them blankets and soft words.

And yet, today we had the most incredible, honest, loving, sovereign circle… also through screens and mics.

Turns out that the human heart transcends all barriers.

We’ve created…

The calm after the storm.

The kiss and make up.

The acknowledgment and appreciation for fellow travellers, warriors and lovers.

We’ve discovered the worst of us is also the best of us and all of it is welcome and loved.

I’m looking forward to seeing them take this depth of Love and Truth out of circle and into the world… it truly is the Medicine the world needs.

PS: The next Waking The Wild Medicine starts in January 2022. To find out more and register your interest go HERE!

7 things I’ve learned from 7 years running my (soul-led) business

By Lian Brook-Tyler

To create a business, a real business – the beautiful, fantastical, edgy af, playful and love-fuelled one that your soul is inconveniently calling you to – takes time. Time to hear your soul’s call, time to find the courage to heed it and then a lot more time than you believe at the start that you can or will give it before it ‘works’.

And then a few years in, you realise there’s no alternative to giving it as long as it takes… after all, this was a soul choice… it’s your very life on the line and therefore it might well take a lifetime.

You will spend several years thinking you’re missing something, maybe a funnel, a new coaching methodology or a better niche, until gradually it dawns on you that the only thing that’s missing is you.

Which brings us to… when you finally dare to strip bare, dropping the mask, losing the armour and revealing your heart… something incredible happens, it all finally starts to work. It looks like magic (it is… *your* magic).

And then the projections come. The more you reveal yourself, the more impact you have and the more people will project on you – positively and negatively. I’m a Divine Queen to some and a Drama Queen to others. The font of all knowledge to some, a know-it-all to others. Sovereignty is being in deep relationship to all of it, knowing it’s all material for your liberation, whilst knowing it was never about you anyway.

Finally you’re *there*… six figures, multiple six figures, seven figures, or whatever the amount of Monopoly money you needed to play with to realise that the material girl in a material world is a gloriously clever, creative part of you but still, only a very small part.

Then you see that you can be, do and have anything.

You make it look so sick-makingly, ridiculously, enviably easy because by this point you’re playing the game, knowing it’s a game and that you’re the table, the board, the playing pieces, the player, your opponents and the games designer. And if there’s a designer of the games designer, you’re that too.

So you create that game however you darn well fancy.

Maybe it’s in a pink and turquoise rose print, accessorised with speckled feathers you found on your walk and with a drinks machine dispensing cocktails or Assam tea depending on your mood.

With a magical chair with just the right mix of wild and sumptuous, say oak and velvet, that gives anyone who sits in it a taste of their own divinity and at the same time, welcomes every bit of the soft animal of their humanity.

Which of course, they’ll pedestalise you for and demonise you for.

And you just keep loving them anyway, making art and playing your game (which is all really the exact same thing)… what else is there to do?

Then you realise that it’s what your soul was saying all those years ago at #1.