This week’s show is with Dr Stephen Snyder, a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer, and author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City.
In this conversation, a second part to the last show that Dr Snyder and I recorded together, we spoke about sex in long lasting relationships: what the obstacles are to having good sex in the long term, and how to overcome them to have ridiculously great sex.
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What you’ll learn from this episode:
- There are three phases of a relationship: Idealisation and delight (honeymoon), which is short-lived but powerful and is designed to get you away from current relationships and into a new one. The second stage is Disappointment, you can’t believe how stupid or heartless they are – you’re not just different, you’re complete opposites! Lastly, in the third stage, couples that stay together move into Creative Mastery – where both parties feel that they get ‘enough’
- Sex is fundamentally selfish, we work best when we focus on taking care of our own arousal and enjoyment rather than have an expectation on the other person.
- I loved what Dr Snyder said at the end: “I only feel like I have everything during great sex – and that’s enough!” 🙂
Resources and stuff that we spoke about
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Lian & Jonathan