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7 things I’ve learned from 7 years running my (soul-led) business

Written by Lian Brook-Tyler

To create a business, a real business – the beautiful, fantastical, edgy af, playful and love-fuelled one that your soul is inconveniently calling you to – takes time. Time to hear your soul’s call, time to find the courage to heed it and then a lot more time than you believe at the start that you can or will give it before it ‘works’.
And then a few years in, you realise there’s no alternative to giving it as long as it takes… after all, this was a soul choice… it’s your very life on the line and therefore it might well take a lifetime.
You will spend several years thinking you’re missing something, maybe a funnel, a new coaching methodology or a better niche, until gradually it dawns on you that the only thing that’s missing is you.
Which brings us to… when you finally dare to strip bare, dropping the mask, losing the armour and revealing your heart… something incredible happens, it all finally starts to work. It looks like magic (it is… *your* magic).
And then the projections come. The more you reveal yourself, the more impact you have and the more people will project on you – positively and negatively. I’m a Divine Queen to some and a Drama Queen to others. The font of all knowledge to some, a know-it-all to others. Sovereignty is being in deep relationship to all of it, knowing it’s all material for your liberation, whilst knowing it was never about you anyway.
Finally you’re *there*… six figures, multiple six figures, seven figures, or whatever the amount of Monopoly money you needed to play with to realise that the material girl in a material world is a gloriously clever, creative part of you but still, only a very small part.
Then you see that you can be, do and have anything.

You make it look so sick-makingly, ridiculously, enviably easy because by this point you’re playing the game, knowing it’s a game and that you’re the table, the board, the playing pieces, the player, your opponents and the games designer. And if there’s a designer of the games designer, you’re that too. So you create that game however you darn well fancy.

Maybe it’s in a pink and turquoise rose print, accessorised with speckled feathers you found on your walk and with a drinks machine dispensing cocktails or Assam tea depending on your mood.

With a magical chair with just the right mix of wild and sumptuous, say oak and velvet, that gives anyone who sits in it a taste of their own divinity and at the same time, welcomes every bit of the soft animal of their humanity.

Which of course, they’ll pedestalise you for and demonise you for.

And you just keep loving them anyway, making art and playing your game (which is all really the exact same thing)… what else is there to do?

Then you realise that it’s what your soul was saying all those years ago at #1.

P.S. If you’re feeling the call to see how I can help you become your magic, follow your next breadcrumb to Waking The Wild Medicine

The radical work of approving of myself

Written by Lian Brook-Tyler

Like many of you, I’ve practised accepting myself, seeing through the illusion of myself, liking myself, losing myself, transcending myself and loving myself.

And what’s creating the most expansion for me is: being in full, deep approval of myself.

There’s something so magnetic and activating about the energetic of approval, I feel my body open and bloom in its warmth. It’s an invitation for all of me to be unashamedly present…

My “too loud” “hysterical” “dirty” “infectious” “fake” laugh.

My 10,000 hours mastery and my wobbly legs uncertainty.

My brilliance and my ‘existing on a completely different planet’ (the nicest version that Chris just offered when I asked him how to word that one) which can make the most basic tasks incredibly confusing and challenging.

My curvaceous Aphrodite and my sports bra-bound, boxing-gloved Amazonian powerhouse.

My logic and my magic.

My devotion and my flakey magpie who’s busy looking for the next shiny object.

My softness and my Hulk (the part of me created as protection when the 5-year-old me had no power over her world).

My off-the-charts-extrovert party animal and my lone wolf.

My grace and my Mr Bump (my childhood nickname because I am *that* clumsy).

And… most challenging of all… my face. My quirky broken-nosed, wonky-toothed, ‘she’s the clever one not the pretty one’ ugly duckling face and my beautiful swan that I glimpse now too (which I’m struggling to even admit it to here for fear of you thinking “She’s delusional, she’s really not beautiful.”)

I approve of my divinity, my humanity, my shadow, my gold and all.

Writing this piece has brought tears and a further depth of approval, which means even more of me feels welcome to be here.

It would be nice if you like this version of me but it’s OK if not, because I approve of myself… fully and deeply.

Are you ready to approve of yourself too?

P.S. If you’re feeling the call to see how I can help you become your magic, follow your next breadcrumb to Waking The Wild Medicine

Why I write about my fear, doubts & uncertainty

Written by Lian Brook-Tyler

Most of what I write about is what’s shown up several times in recent conversations and then I feel a tug to write about it.

Once the tug has been acknowledged, I often feel resistance to honouring it because I know it will require outing something that I’ve kept hidden from others – and also often from myself – and usually for very good reason.

And that’s how I know it’s exactly what I need to write about. For my readers’ sake, yes, I’m often told how reassuring and hopeful it is to read about my less-than-glossy aspects… but it’s for my own good too.

The more our shadows are exposed to light the less they can have a hold on us. It’s like the quote of Jung’s that I constantly quote/misquote:

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

(I actually think I can quote it perfectly these days but I still apologise and stumble over it because I don’t trust myself after I’ve spent so many years butchering it!)

But it’s important to be clear that shining light on our shadows doesn’t mean helplessly wallowing around in them, clutching at others to reassure us that they’re not true or making ourselves wrong for them, it means creating the sovereign elevation to see our fearful patterns with perspective and from there to lovingly welcome back the scared, ashamed part of ourselves.

I may not always spell that out but it’s exactly what’s happening when I write.

I’m sharing my most hidden, fearful, embarrassing parts of myself with you as an act of bringing awareness, love and often levity to them.

Like “Oh there you are, sweet darling, I see you’ve been doing your funny thing. And it’s OK, all is welcome. You’re safe now.”

So what I’m really doing when I write about my mess and mishaps is loving myself back home. Knowing in doing so, that you’re being given an invitation to love yourself back home too.

P.S. If you’re feeling the call to see how I can help you become your magic, follow your next breadcrumb to Waking The Wild Medicine

The things you wish for… are you ready to run your gauntlet?

The Gauntlet

People often say to me “I wish I could do [insert thing I appear to do easily 🙂] like you.”

The things they wish for range from creating content like podcasts and fb posts to how I enrol, coach and teach.

The truth is NONE of those things have come easily for me even though all of them are sourced from my deepest gifts.

I’m naturally adept at speaking directly to people’s wild souls, manifesting exactly what I desire in a way that looks like magic (maybe because it is), seeing people’s deepest gifts, understanding complex patterns and articulating all of those things in the spoken and written word… they are all aspects of my deepest gifts.

What’s made it incredibly challenging for me is:

I worry about what people think of me… it’s only very recently that it’s felt safe for me to be seen in anything close to my full power.
I doubt my abilities a lot… It’s taken most of my life to even begin to accept my deepest gifts (I see other’s much more easily).
I’ve struggled with a host of seemingly insurmountable difficulties, including being deaf for a decade and having chronic pain for 15 years (now both cured… as if by magic).

Those three fears – dragons in the Valley of Uncertainty – have made for a terrifying gauntlet to pass through (even now, I’m not yet out the other side).

So yes, whilst I’m appreciative of the gifts that allow me to do the things I do, I’d bet that even with those gifts, doing the things you envy me for has not come more easily to me than doing your Soul Work will for you.

You will have your own gifts and you will have your own gauntlet. I believe your gifts will be no less valuable than mine and that your gauntlet, whilst terrifying, is really no match for your wild soul.

The only question is… are you ready to run your gauntlet?

P.S. If you’re feeling the call to see how I can help you become your magic, follow your next breadcrumb to Waking The Wild Medicine

Art: Matthew Henry, Unsplash

Permission

Written by Lian Brook-Tyler

Something I’ve noticed keeps coming up in conversation lately is ‘permission’. In speaking about matters of the heart, soul and being who they know deep down they came here to be, my clients and others keep saying things like:

“I think I want you to give me permission to do it.”

“I guess it’s about giving myself permission.”

Isn’t that interesting?

Wanting and waiting for permission suggests the desire, gifts and resources are present (or at least seem in reach).

That feels significant to me, if the truly valuable stuff is already in place, why the focus on permission being needed before action can be taken?

I believe it’s yet another symptom of how almost all of raised in this culture have been tamed.

Dictionary definitions of ‘permission’ mention the word ‘authorise’, which in turn is defined like so:

1 : to endorse, empower, justify, or permit by or as if by some recognized or proper authority (such as custom, evidence, personal right, or regulating power) Merriam-Webster dictionary

Most of us haven’t been raised in a way that honours, guides and expands our wild sovereignty, so it’s understandable that we’d look to others for endorsement, power, justification and permission.

So who is this proper authority we’re standing around waiting for before we can follow our wild heart and walk our soul path?

I don’t believe there’s a power in the land who can give anyone else that permission.

It’s like Glinda, the Good Witch, said to Dorothy “You had the power all along, my dear.”

What if you had the permission all along, my dear?

What will you do now? Who will you be?

P.S. Can you see why people speak to me so much about needing permission? When we empower our own permission, others will want what we have… until they see they had it all along too.

P.P.S. If you’re feeling the call to see how I can help you become your magic, follow your next breadcrumb to Waking The Wild Medicine